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February 2009 
Needing Encouragement and Prayers for my Mommy
Posted on Feb 13th, 2009
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gina
gina
To all my gaian friends,
It has been about a week since I have been on line due to work and schedules, and with some news that I did not want to swallow. In 1991, my dad had a heart attack and he underwent a quadruple bypass and came through it with flying colors. There were a lot of negatives with him going into surgery: 1 at that time, the surgery was held in Elmira, NY about 3 hours away; 2 he had high blood pressure and 3, he was over 300 lbs. The last two were very big concerns, yet somehow, with faith and prayers he pulled through miracously. In the last 14 years, none of his grafts had deteriorated which is a miracle in itselt.
However, I did not anticipate that my mom would have to go through the same thing. I kept teasing her the other day that she just could not tolerate dad being the only one with the big scar. Wow did she have a laugh at that. My younger daughter wanted to make sure that nanay did not see " little people" as my dad did when he was under the medication...Another roar of laughter from my mom. When I was talking to my mom, she had encouraging words, always the one to make sure one does not worry. I think she could feel my anxiety and as always bringing me back to reality. She does not want to wait for the surgery, she wants it done and overwith. She is so determined. Come to find out, they have to postpone the bypass because they found a blockage in her carotid artery and this must be taken care of right away before the bypass because of the complication of a stroke should they proceed. Her surgeon is Dr. DeTraglia and her cardiologist is Dr. Talerico, both of which I hold very high respect for, the surgeon, I worked with him when I worked at the hospital and Dr. T is my dad's cardiologist and his nurse used to work with me in the ER so I have no doubts about the people performing the operation. However, with all my medical knowledge, there is that lingering anxiety of what could go wrong and I must try and put that out of my mind.
My mom and I have been through some really tough times and yet, somehow we have manage to bandage the wounds and forget about what was said and move on and through that, we have become closer, although I live many miles away. I hold an enormous amount of hate inside of me for her sister.
My aunt has hurt my mother so terribly, only out for herself and therefore, I do not want her near my mother or father. To me she does not exist anymore. Is this wrong to feel? I think not. She won't go to the hospital to see her, nor if anything should happen, would she even help out with my dad.
With mom's surgery being postponed, it gives me more time to get up there to be with her. I am discouraged that every means of transportation up there is expensive what with mardi gras and spring break all across the country.
My mom has more good years ahead of her and it is worrisome to me that she has to go through this. I know right now that she is very worried yet holding it all in as to not to make my dad worry. The one thing she said to me was that when they gave her breakfast the other morning, she wanted some salt to put on her eggs and they would not give it to her. She said if only she could have some salt...I never laughed so much.
She even gave my father a list of things to do while she was coming out of the anesthestic of how much food was in the refrigerator, where his pills were and where the dog food was for the dogs. You gotta love her. Always being prepared.
My two daughters are filled with anxiety especially Rachel, who was literally raised by both my father and mother and remain extremely close to them. I feel for my daughter as her nanay is her life as well as mine, not to mention Cari, who is also beside herself with worry.
So I ask all of you to please send some prayers to my family as well as to my two daughters so that we can have the strength to help see my mother through this. I know that all my late grandparents are watching over her too. Help me to get over my anger and hatred for my aunt and just make it sympathy for her for not knowing her sister. My own sister is taking everything on herself as well. She lives closer and will be staying with my dad to help him until I get up there.
I can feel the embracing from all of my friends here and I can feel the warmth already surrounding my family. Thank you all so much.
It has been about a week since I have been on line due to work and schedules, and with some news that I did not want to swallow. In 1991, my dad had a heart attack and he underwent a quadruple bypass and came through it with flying colors. There were a lot of negatives with him going into surgery: 1 at that time, the surgery was held in Elmira, NY about 3 hours away; 2 he had high blood pressure and 3, he was over 300 lbs. The last two were very big concerns, yet somehow, with faith and prayers he pulled through miracously. In the last 14 years, none of his grafts had deteriorated which is a miracle in itselt.
However, I did not anticipate that my mom would have to go through the same thing. I kept teasing her the other day that she just could not tolerate dad being the only one with the big scar. Wow did she have a laugh at that. My younger daughter wanted to make sure that nanay did not see " little people" as my dad did when he was under the medication...Another roar of laughter from my mom. When I was talking to my mom, she had encouraging words, always the one to make sure one does not worry. I think she could feel my anxiety and as always bringing me back to reality. She does not want to wait for the surgery, she wants it done and overwith. She is so determined. Come to find out, they have to postpone the bypass because they found a blockage in her carotid artery and this must be taken care of right away before the bypass because of the complication of a stroke should they proceed. Her surgeon is Dr. DeTraglia and her cardiologist is Dr. Talerico, both of which I hold very high respect for, the surgeon, I worked with him when I worked at the hospital and Dr. T is my dad's cardiologist and his nurse used to work with me in the ER so I have no doubts about the people performing the operation. However, with all my medical knowledge, there is that lingering anxiety of what could go wrong and I must try and put that out of my mind.
My mom and I have been through some really tough times and yet, somehow we have manage to bandage the wounds and forget about what was said and move on and through that, we have become closer, although I live many miles away. I hold an enormous amount of hate inside of me for her sister.
My aunt has hurt my mother so terribly, only out for herself and therefore, I do not want her near my mother or father. To me she does not exist anymore. Is this wrong to feel? I think not. She won't go to the hospital to see her, nor if anything should happen, would she even help out with my dad.
With mom's surgery being postponed, it gives me more time to get up there to be with her. I am discouraged that every means of transportation up there is expensive what with mardi gras and spring break all across the country.
My mom has more good years ahead of her and it is worrisome to me that she has to go through this. I know right now that she is very worried yet holding it all in as to not to make my dad worry. The one thing she said to me was that when they gave her breakfast the other morning, she wanted some salt to put on her eggs and they would not give it to her. She said if only she could have some salt...I never laughed so much.
She even gave my father a list of things to do while she was coming out of the anesthestic of how much food was in the refrigerator, where his pills were and where the dog food was for the dogs. You gotta love her. Always being prepared.
My two daughters are filled with anxiety especially Rachel, who was literally raised by both my father and mother and remain extremely close to them. I feel for my daughter as her nanay is her life as well as mine, not to mention Cari, who is also beside herself with worry.
So I ask all of you to please send some prayers to my family as well as to my two daughters so that we can have the strength to help see my mother through this. I know that all my late grandparents are watching over her too. Help me to get over my anger and hatred for my aunt and just make it sympathy for her for not knowing her sister. My own sister is taking everything on herself as well. She lives closer and will be staying with my dad to help him until I get up there.
I can feel the embracing from all of my friends here and I can feel the warmth already surrounding my family. Thank you all so much.
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wow, so much here, splashing you and every member of the family with lots and lots of light and peace and love…
Nicole,
Thank you so much for your support. I feel your love and serenity. thank you.
Gina, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughters and your parents and your sister as you all face some difficult times. It can’t be easy being so far away. But you’re very fortunate to have so many in your family to go through this with. When my husband had his heart attack and triple by-pass surgery I found great strength and comfort from having a family, that we all had each other to hold each other up. Sadly, one of my husband’s roommates at the hospital never had a single visitor the whole week we were there. It never occurred to me before that some folks are so very alone. I hope you will all be gentle and kind with each other and grow closer as you share these difficult days together. Much love to you, my friend… (((hugs)))
Dearest Gina, I hold your family, your mother’s medical staff and the situation in loving light; in prayer for the best outcome for all concerned.
As we intend, so it begins…
If you are fine with it, I’ll also ask in The Power of Light group. Pl let me know.
‘bout time you let it out too. I’m scared to death… but I love my Nanay .. and I love my Mommy … and I get so mad at you because you don’t take care of yourself the way you should. Someday, you and I might be in the same position with you in the hospital bed (God forbid) … but it’s possible … and I could be saying “My mom and I had some tough times…” … this should be a warning to you to stop smoking.. and starting eating well … it’s never too late to reverse damage that has been done. And don’t forget about Cari too … you’re the only mother she has…
As for Aunt Carol… no point in wasting time being angry or “hating” her … it’s a waste of positive energy you could be sending to Nanay for healing. Aunt Carol is a very obsolete matter in this whole situation. Remember that.
Joining you with thoughts of loving intention and prayers for the whole family..
Love surrounding your Mum now,
May you all be blessed with healing, surrounded by the warmth of gentle knowing that all is well..
As hands reach out to you may you know the comfort and acceptance of continued deep and sacred connection..
My thoughts and prayers are with you all Gina…
Love and blessings
Ange..
Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts and words of wisdom.
Meenakski: I would be most honored if you did contact power of light. What an honor.
Rachel: I am cutting down on the smoking. Its one day at a time. Its working. The hardest one is the eating habits. LOL. I love my chicken wings, but will try to amend the ways. Exercise, walking right now. Not much, but getting better at it. A little light on the matter, I know I am Cari’s only mom, but what about you? Is there something you know that I don’t know? :)
Ange: thank you so much.
Barbara: Yes, so sad that some people have no one around. We are fortunate that we have a remarkable family that has its own support group.
I talked to my mom today and she is in good spirits, a little antsy for one, she can’t do a lot of the things that she wants to do like spring cleaning and laundry, which is literally driving her nuts, but she will manage and she is cooking like she did when dad first came home from the hospital, with meals for a “smart heart”. This makes me feel better.
Thanks to everyone. Love you all.
Gina, you are in my prayers with your whole beautiful family…
Thank you so much asteri. Would have left a note on your grapevine, but somehow, I can’t change my status nor can i post on any grapevine. Very frustrating.
Gina, is your javascript enabled?
I’ve posted your prayer request here: Encouragement and Prayers for Gina’s mother
Love and Light to you Gina, your daughters, your Mother and Father, and to the entire medical staff. We are all pulling and praying for you all. Be well.
I will be thinking of you and your mother and rachel, gina and praying that all goes smoothly for her.
love, jenni
Gina,
I wish to extend a sympathetic ear anytime you need one. I have been through a bit of this with my own mom. She had a quintuple bypass just as her own mom passed from this physical life. She came out of the hospital just in time to attend that funeral. She has not done as well as your dad. We just visited in January, only to find her not at home but having gone into the hospital on an emergency basis for a stent to be put into one artery, just before we arrived. She came home chipper enough and full of energy but she had just had the same procedure on another artery last Nov, so it is worrisome. They had detected this blockage during the previous surgery but had determined it did not need treatment at that time. She was pretty unhappy that it deteriorated that much that quickly.
My parents have diabetes and my dad who is in his 70s has been told that his brain is that of a 80 something yr old and so, most likely early Alzheimer’s. I certainly noticed quickly little signs of a loss of mental functioning. There are also neurological tremors beginning that have not been fully diagnosed.
For the last 5 years, we’ve been heavily involved in the care of my 86+ yr old in-laws (who have lived next door to us on the farm). I’ve been walked down many elder care roads through all of this.
I will send healing thoughts with - your mom and you, and of course your dad in mind as well - because these things are difficult for all members of the family intimately involved. You have my admiration. With you medical experience, you know never to assume and never to fear being proactive, where your parent’s health is concerned.
I wish her a full and good recovery and you all the peace of mind a good unfolding can yield. Call upon me any time, privately, that you have the need.
Deborah
prayers and reiki flowing.
peace -
Sylvia
A few more (((hugs!))) for you, and a lots of hope, love and light… Barbara